What are some strategies for maintaining a healthy relationship when life and parenting can be all-consuming?

Maintaining a healthy relationship amidst the demands of raising a family is no easy feat. It requires intentional effort, communication and prioritizing each other's needs. Here are some strategies to help you and your partner keep your relationship top priority.

Prioritize quality time

Make a conscious effort to spend quality time together, even if it's just for a few minutes each day. Schedule regular date nights (be sure to put them on the calendar!) or time for activities you both enjoy to nurture your connection. That could even be as simple as watching a show you both enjoy together, or doing an activity such as hiking or a ski weekend.

Focus on communication

Regularly checking in with each other about your feelings, concerns and needs can help to keep the communication channels open. Practice active listening and empathy to better understand each other's perspectives.

Share responsibilities

Divide household and parenting responsibilities to prevent one partner from feeling overwhelmed or resentful. Working together as a team can help you feel more connected to your partner.

Maintain individual identities

While parenting is a significant part of your life, it's easy to sometimes forget that you are also individual people with your own interests, hobbies and friendships outside of your family unit. Allow each other to set aside time for self-care and to pursue activities that bring each of you joy and fulfillment outside of your role as parents and partners.

Set boundaries with technology

Nothing can come between your relationship like a screen! Limit the impact of technology on your relationship by establishing boundaries around screen time and digital distractions. Make a conscious effort to disconnect from devices and prioritize face-to-face interactions with your partner.

Seek relationship support when needed

Seek support from friends, family or a counselor when navigating challenges in your relationship. Having a supportive network can provide valuable perspective and resources to help you overcome obstacles together.

Practice gratitude

Take the time to express appreciation for your partner's contributions and acknowledge the effort you both put into maintaining your relationship amidst the demands of life and raising a family.

Keep romance alive

Keep the spark alive in your relationship. Show affection through physical touch, words of affirmation and thoughtful gestures to remind each other of your love and appreciation.

Originally published in March 2024.