Studies show that the benefits of being an involved grandparent can positively affect you and your grandkids. But the impact of the special memories you’ll make can’t be measured by research.
Growing up close to my grandparents meant that I was fortunate to have many core memories with them. They were an integral part of my childhood with weekend dinners and family gatherings with lovingly prepared food (with recipes I still use today). I received painting lessons from one grandmother and sewing supplies and skills from another. My grandparents were involved in picking us up for appointments, driving us to school, babysitting and helping shape our everyday lives. And when I look back, it's nothing but fondness for the hours spent playing on my grandfather’s farm.
Because of my bond with my grandparents, I knew that I wanted the same interaction and opportunities for my own children. Even though me and my husband were not in the same city as either of our parents when we first had our kids, my experience growing up cemented the need to prioritize a close relationship.
Whether your grandkids are nearby, or you're trying to build a relationship from afar, there are many benefits to being involved — even when you must be a little creative to do so.
Make memories that last
The memories and feelings you and your grandchildren share can have an immeasurable impact. As my children have grown into teens and young adults, the continued involvement of their grandparents has strengthened their bond and closeness. They have inside jokes, trips down memory lane, shared interests and a desire to continue building their relationships. It’s not forced, or required, but instead a natural bond between my kids and our parents thanks to making their involvement a priority.
Benefits for grandparents and grandkids
Studies continue to show an increased benefit of being an involved grandparent. There's evidence to suggest that a loving relationship with a grandparent can have a positive impact on grandchildren, including fewer behavioural and emotional problems. My own childhood was filled with positive adult figures who helped raise to raise me and my siblings, and my kids are experiencing the opportunity to learn from and be supported by their grandparents, too.
However, for grandparents who are having to take on a more full-time role in the raising of the grandchildren, the time together can become overwhelming, and the benefits may be reduced. Improved mental health and feeling less isolated are also benefits to grandparents. One American survey found 72 percent of grandparents said they hardly ever feel isolated (compared to 62 percent of non grandparents) and only nine percent surveyed rated their health as fair or poor (compared to 13 percent).
Building a bond when distance keeps you apart
Close proximity makes it a lot easier to visit your grandkids, provide childcare support or make plans as a family; however, don’t overlook opportunities to remain close even if there is physical distance between you. Connecting via video chats, phone calls and texts are some ways to keep in contact and build attachment.
Travelling together is another way for grandkids and grandparents to create lasting memories and see each other outside of their typical day-to-day lives. This has always been a highlight for my family and a fantastic way to bring everyone closer together.
