My preschooler is jealous of their new baby sibling. What are some strategies to help?

It’s common for young children to experience that new baby sibling jealousy or resentment when a new bundle of joy enters the family. Adjusting to this dynamic can be challenging for preschoolers, who may feel uncertain about their place in the family. Here are some strategies to help your firstborn cope with and overcome feelings of jealousy towards their new sibling:

Provide reassurance and validation
Let your first-born know that it’s okay to feel jealous or upset about the new baby. Validate their feelings by acknowledging and empathizing with their emotions. Reassure them that you love them just as much as before and that your love for them hasn’t changed.

Offer individual attention
Make a conscious effort to spend one-on-one time with your older child each day, engaging in activities that they enjoy. 

Involve them in baby care
Encourage big bro or sis to participate in caring for the new baby in age-appropriate ways. For example, they can help fetch diapers, choose outfits or sing to the baby. Involving them in caregiving tasks can foster a sense of responsibility and inclusion.

Encourage positive interaction
Facilitate positive interactions between your older child and their new sibling, such as singing or playing together under your supervision. Offer words of encouragement and positive reinforcement when your oldest demonstrates kindness of helpfulness towards the baby, such as “Look how your sister is smiling at you. She likes to hear you sing to her!” 

Read books about sibling relationships
Introduce age-appropriate books or stories about sibling relationships to help your preschooler understand and normalize their feelings. 

Create special rituals
Establish traditions that involve both siblings, such as reading a bedtime story together or having a designated “sibling playtime” each day. These shared experiences can foster bonding and create positive memories.

Seek support if needed
If the jealousy persists or intensifies, consider seeking support from a pediatrician, child psychologist or family therapist who can offer additional strategies and resources tailored to your family’s specific needs.